Your Purpose in Life, Inner Spirit & Motivation
Author Sidebar: I believe that growing up in the church helped me to deal with the fear and anxiety that I felt, especially while I was in the hospital. The look of despair on some of the doctors' faces really scared me.
But, my daughter really gave me a lot of encouragement; and, so did my mother. She kept reminding me that God had more plans for me, so I needed to get well as soon as possible. I'm not sure how my mother knew, but, she was convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that I would get better, even though things looked pretty grim.
My mother's confidence and belief provided me with the emotional support and energy that fueled me and allowed me to relax a little; and, that removed some of the tension and anxiety that I felt. She told me to pray every night; and, I did, just like when I was a child. Some nights I cried, but, somehow, I slowly began to feel better.
My mother convinced me that I needed to get back in touch with God by eating His foods. I didn't really believe my mother at the time, but, I decided to go along with what she said, especially since she was preparing the meals anyhow. :-) Plus, it's not a good idea to disagree with my mother -- assuming you wanted to stay alive. :-)
And, then, when my blood sugar started to drop, I couldn't believe it! Eventually, I was able to begin walking and exercising; and, the normal color in my legs and toes returned gradually.
And, with each passing day, I kept getting better and better ...
p.s. However, I must admit that, in the back of my mind, I was waiting for other shoe to fall because my doctors kept telling me that eventually I would have a relapse.
And, so I waited ... But, I kept getting better until one day I no longer needed insulin! I was so happy! I mean I was really so happy that I began to share my story with people at work, people at the grocery store, people in the mall, people in the parking lot ... :-)
Then, one day, I found myself telling my story to a diabetic support group at a local hospital. The people in the support group were so energized and enthusiastic about my story that their energy actually made me feel even better!
At that time, I didn't realize that this was a seminal moment that would drive me to help a lot of people ...
People sometimes ask me why I spend so much time helping others -- why I do what I do. They ask me where do you get the energy? the passion to keep doing this?
I tell them that I feel a responsibility to share the knowledge that I was "given" -- this knowledge about diabetes through my experiences with the doctors and in the hospital; and, later with other diabetics via the support groups, local churches, health fairs and speaking engagements. I met so many people who were suffering unnecessarily with this disease primarily because they didn't have the information and insight that I had been given through my near-death coma and other diabetes-related experiences.
I was given this insight into a disease that is misunderstood by so many. In the beginning, I was so happy to be alive. I was so happy that I still had my legs and my eyesight. I had all this energy. Sometimes I would stop a complete stranger in the parking lot or start talking to someone in the grocery store checkout line or talk to someone while waiting in line at the post office.
I would think of inventive ways to discuss my story; and, every time, I would get looks of surprise; or, someone would says something like: "My mother is diabetic." or "What do you mean by you were diabetic?" or "Did you say you no longer take insulin?" or "Your blood sugar was what?"
When I was in the hospital and things looked really grim, I cried and I prayed, hoping I wouldn't lose my legs or my eyesight. While crying and praying, I made a promise that I would help others if I got out of this somehow. Of course, I didn't really expect that I would get out of this mess. So, my promise was kind of an empty promise that I didn't ever expect to keep. So, in a way, I kind of have to help others ...
There are a couple of quotes that kind of explain why I have to do what I do. One of the quotes is "To whom much is given, much is required." The source of this quote comes from the Bible, Luke 12:48 where Jesus says: “From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.”
Another similar quote comes from one of the popular superhero movies called Spider-Man. During one of their important talks, Uncle Ben provides words of wisdom to Peter Parker when he says: “With great power comes great responsibility.”
The idea of “to whom much is given, much will be required” is that we are held responsible for what we have and what we've been given. In one way or another, we have all been given a gift, a talent, something that we do well -- something that makes us unique. Something that gives us purpose, something that gets our juices going, something that give us drive, passion -- our purpose for living.
We were all put on this planet by the Creator with a Purpose in Life. The "trick" is to figure out what that purpose is. Sometimes, it's obvious; in other cases it may take some digging and learning more about ourselves.
But, I believe it all starts with being a servant to others -- a servant to our family, to our friends, to our community ...
All of us have different gifts from God and we are to use those gifts to serve others. It is always more blessed to give than receive. We should give our time and do volunteer work to help others -- not just give money, food, and clothing to the poor.
Make a difference in someone’s life and I guarantee you that the experience will uplift you in ways that you could never imagine.
Man is a trinity that is comprised of the Body (Physical), the Mind (Mental), and the Spirit (Spiritual).
The Body, Mind and Spirit work in harmony to make you the best that you can be in this life. If one of these three elements is “sick” or out of balance with the other two, then, your entire being will be sick.
Unfortunately, most of traditional medicine focuses on the Body by addressing and suppressing the symptoms and never fixing the underlying root cause of the unhealthy cells. Traditional medicine tends to overlook the importance of the Mind and the Spirit and its role in healing the Body.
Man also tends to focus on the Body by taking drugs to relieve pain or by feeding his food cravings to satisfy hormonal hunger – both of which may be driven by emotions such as depression.
There are horror movies that can scare you, but I can truly tell you that there is nothing, absolutely nothing scarier than knowing that your doctor cannot help you and your time is limited.
Only a strong belief in a power that is greater than yourself can give you the hope, the confidence and courage to fight for your life instead of giving in to the inevitable life of kidney failure/dialysis, amputation, and blindness.
Key Point: If you have Type 2 diabetes or a similar systemic disease due to poor eating habits, part of the reason is due to the disconnect between the Mind and the Spirit. Your inner Spirit tells you to eat God's super foods. But, your Mind, which is controlled by the outside world (e.g. TV, newspapers, doctors, other people) tells you to eat man's toxic and processed foods.
We choose to ignore our Spirit and fail to listen to that Spirit telling us what we should be eating. Even many churches fail to mention this to their congregations!
Once you accept the fact that we live in a spiritual universe and that we are all spiritual beings, you will find yourself equipped with an instrument through which you can exert influence over your body and your blood glucose control. But, how do you go about tapping into your inner spirit and belief system?
One of the next sections (below) will give you some ideas how to get started and tap into your Inner Spirit.
So, how did we get here with all these convenience and fast foods and such poor health?
When it comes to food, the irony is that just at the time nutritional scientists were identifying vitamins, minerals, and other nutrients that support life, technologists were perfecting the refining processes to separate the nutrients from the food or to reconstitute them in synthetic forms.
Refined white flour, “enriched” cereal, homogenized milk, bottled juices, soda, high fructose corn syrup, margarine (partially hydrogenated oil), and fast foods are examples that are devastating our health today.
All of this was motivated by profit for the seller and convenience for the buyer, as the age of boxed mixes and prepackaged foods brought new freedom in the kitchen and profits to food packaging industries and grocery stores.
Unfortunately, that new freedom has come at a high price, which many people are ignoring, hoping that, maybe medical science will develop a magic pill in the near future.
Medical science is very successful in handling trauma and emergency treatment, but not with their treatment of degenerative diseases such as heart disease, cancer and diabetes. Their treatment protocol for these diseases is drug therapy to suppress the symptoms instead of fixing the underlying root cause and get rid of the disease. If the drug therapy doesn’t work or it stops working, the only other option is surgery.
Unfortunately, many people put their faith in these drugs that were created by man instead of the foods that were created by God. And, as long as we continue to believe that man is smarter than God, we will be trapped with poor health and our dependency on these man-made foods and drugs. So, become a victor of wellness, instead of a victim of disease.
Spiritual health allows you to focus on your inner faith and the belief that you must respect and protect what you put into your body to maintain a healthy balance with the mind and spirit. This supports Apostle Paul’s requirement to glorify God in our body, as well as our spirit:
“Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost . . . therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” [1 Corinthians 6:19-20]
Discord between your Spirit and Mind usually leads to illogical behaviors and rationalizations. For example, as their reasoning for eating what they like even if it is bad for their health, I am amazed at the number of people who have told me “Well, you gotta die of something.” This type of rationalization is due to a disconnect between that person’s spirit and unconscious mind, leading to a negative effect on their body.
It is also a disconnect between the spirit and conscious mind that is created as a defense mechanism when the person can’t really explain why they’re doing something that they know is harming their body.
Research has shown that a diabetic who is not healthy emotionally will not respond positively to treatment, even though they may have the best care and medicine. Discord between the mind and body is a critical factor. Diabetics know that if they worry too much their blood sugar will go “sky high” and stay high until they stop worrying.
Be wary of systemic societal prejudices (e.g. sexism, racism), which may decrease your exposure to knowledge/education while increasing the anxiety and stress in your life. How you handle these problems and stress is very important. Do not neglect the problem.
Acknowledge that stress can actually be helpful. For example, the stress that an athlete feels can actually help to improve their performance if they know how to channel the stress and nervous energy. Someone like a Magic Johnson or Michael Jordan handled stress well on and off the basketball court. But, you don’t need to be Magic or Michael – just be yourself and embrace the challenge.
And, don’t neglect the problem or live in denial of your diabetes.
Neglect (or denial) is like an infection or a cancer -- left unchecked it will spread throughout your entire being.
When you live in denial and continue to neglect your health (by not eating right and not exercising), your physical health will continue to deteriorate.
In addition, living in denial will affect you emotionally and cause your mental health to deteriorate leading to a feeling of hopelessness.
And, when you feel hopeless, you won't be motivated to want to change your diet or your lifestyle.
All of this leads to an gradual erosion of your self-confidence and self-esteem. And, you begin to shy away from friends and other people, and become anti-social.
As your self-confidence diminishes, so does your activity level (of trying to get healthy). And as your activity level diminishes, your results inevitably decline.
And as your results suffer, your attitude begins to weaken. And as your attitude begins the gradual shift from positive to negative, your self-confidence diminishes even more . . . and this downward spiral continues as your health suffers.
And, as the health problems and financial problems begin to mount, the hopelessness and lack of self-confidence may lead to feelings of depression.
And, depression can lead to antidepressant and anti-psychotic medications.
However, the good news is that you can prevent and overcome all of this by embracing the problem and tapping into your spirituality or inner spirit.
By tapping into your inner spirit, you will stop denying the problem, stop blaming the doctor and others, and take full accountability for your diabetes.
Then, you will begin to seek the knowledge to educate yourself; and, then, take the appropriate corrective actions to change your diet and lifestyle. And, finally, begin to live the life that you deserve.
In order to get started, simply following some of the practices listed below or use some of the practices listed in Chapter 13 of the Death to Diabetes book. Or, call our office for help if you prefer to talk to someone.
Diabetes self-management has evolved over the past few decades from just relying on drugs to a much more comprehensive system that includes superior nutrition, exercise, blood glucose testing, stress reduction, and meal planning. Spirituality
The Death to Diabetes self-management guidelines reflect a more holistic style that addresses the needs of the whole person rather than isolated parts. Holistic principles identify man as consisting of 3 parts: Body, Mind and Spirit. And, all 3 parts must be healthy for the whole person to be healthy.
Holistic medicine is not a new concept. Socrates knew that it was important to treat the body as a whole when he wrote, “For the part can never be well unless the whole is well.” An old Indian saying states that the body is like a house with 3 rooms: a physical, a mental/emotional, and a spiritual room.
To be a whole person, one must spend at least a little bit of time in each of these rooms every day. For example, food and rest satisfy our physical needs; learning about the world and using what we learn enriches our minds; and validating and coping with our feelings meets our emotional needs. Our spiritual needs must also be addressed.
Spirituality can be defined as experiencing the presence of a power or force and experiencing a closeness to that presence. Spirituality can be used as a motivational force to urge individuals to search for meaning in life, i.e. Purpose in Life.
Spirituality may mean being involved with organized religion, taking time to contemplate one’s place in the ultimate order of things, or focusing on the things that give life meaning, such as one’s family or social group.
No matter what one’s personal motivation for seeking it, spirituality can be seen as part of the journey toward becoming whole and being healthy.
The Death to Diabetes program addresses these areas of needs in one’s life. Superior nutrition nourishes the body. Diabetes educators teach people about blood glucose monitoring, meal plans, and exercise. They also teach people to manage stress or to recognize warning signs of depression to maintain emotional health.
Using prayer or meditation helps our spiritual part. Addressing each of these areas of our lives helps us to move closer to a holistic form of diabetes self-management.
Holistic health care seeks in part to enhance the body’s natural healing ability. Much attention has been focused on developing sophisticated drugs and learning healthy life choices, but enhancing the body’s natural healing ability hasn’t been as rigorously studied.
Recent research in the field of mind/body medicine, or psycho-neuroimmunology, though, has shown that the mind can and does have a profound effect on the body. Techniques such as the Relaxation Response and other forms of meditation, guided imagery, positive outlook, humor, hope, and even one’s beliefs can all affect medical outcomes.
Perhaps it was the growing acceptance of involving the mind in the health process that made it easier for mainstream scientists to begin to take a serious look at spirituality and prayer. Prayer can be defined as communication with God, the creator of life, the collective unconscious, or one’s higher self.
Some studies have suggested that prayer can have an effect on both individuals who pray for themselves as well as on those who are prayed for by others (even without their knowledge).
For example, in a study of patients in a cardiac intensive care unit, those who were prayed for (unbeknownst to them) by a group of community volunteers had about 10% fewer complications than those who were not prayed for by the volunteers.
Research at Duke University’s Center for the Study of Religion/ Spirituality and Health has looked at “intrinsic religiosity,” which is defined as one’s beliefs rather than participation in organized religious activities.
Those with higher levels of intrinsic religiosity had better survival rates after severe illness, less depression in older age, less disability and mortality when faced with chronic disease, and possibly stronger immune systems. These and other studies raised interesting questions about the effect of prayer on both medical outcomes and general wellness.
A good spiritual practice is one where you are able to discover your true nature and self. It’s the process of digging through your physical and emotional makeup and reaching the essence of who you are as a person.
Connecting with your true nature can help you find true fulfillment and meaning in your life and can motivate you to fight a disease like diabetes.
In addition to fulfillment and meaning, spirituality can dramatically improve your life, especially, in terms of your health, wealth and relationships.
What can spirituality do for you?
You don’t have to associate the word “spirituality” with a practice that helps you achieve your true essence. Spirituality can be comprised of multiple paths, methods and practice.
Spiritual practices can certainly include religious practices at your church, temple or home. You’re embracing spirituality when you sing in choirs, chant mantras, pray or meditate. You can also reflect upon spiritual texts, travel to spiritual lands, embrace the beauty of nature or spend silent time in reflection.
Here are practical ways that spirituality can improve your life:
Concentration and focus. A spiritual practice helps you focus on realizing your true essence. This typically requires intense concentration on observing your mind or focusing on understanding your soul. While pursuing these practices, you practice your ability to focus and concentrate.
When you’re embracing a spiritual practice, you realize that your ability to focus on work, family and life in general, also increases. Increased focus and concentration helps you be more productive and efficient in your day to day work.
Awareness and insight. While spiritual practices are a journey within to “study” yourself, you’ll also get into the habit of studying situations and people better. You’ll become more observant of those around you and be more aware of situations that present themselves to you. When you observe a problem like you’re observing your mind, for example, you begin to see a problem from many different angles and all the possible solutions. You start developing a deeper understanding of people and circumstance which gives you sharper insight to resolving problems in your life.
More creativity and ideas. One of the world’s most successful and creative artists, Vincent van Gogh, was strongly influenced by his spiritual beliefs. Although formal religion turned it’s back on Van Gogh when a Protestant organization declined to renew his appointment to preach, he found solace in expressing his spirituality through his art. His creative masterpieces are now some of the most expensive and appreciated paintings around the world. When you’re trying to focus on your mind and soul, you will be bursting with creativity and new ideas. Artists will be inspired to create magnificent art. Entrepreneurs will be inspired by new products and new businesses. And the rest of us will be inspired by new ways to solve an old problem, improve the world around us or think of ways to provide more value to the world.
Synchronicity. Now, you may think this idea is a bit of the deep end but it’s something that you should be experience firsthand before ruling it out. You’ll notice that when you’re in a spiritual place and in tune with the world around you, that circumstances, problems and situations in your life start working in sync for you. You’ll start noticing more coincidences, more serendipity and more favorable events in your life. Instead of rowing upstream in the row boat of life facing strong winds, you’ll feel like you’re on a motor boat cruising along with little resistance. Being spiritually centered feels like the world around you is suddenly working for you and in your favor.
Peace of mind. Would you like to feel balanced and peaceful? Ultimately, isn’t that why many people embrace some kind of spiritual or religious practice? Spirituality helps you realize that true peace of mind is within yourself. Instead of finding happiness in professional pursuits or material objects, you come to realize that peace of mind is an internal, not external journey. Imagine being less worried, more in tune with your true nature and having a calmer state of mind? Living a spiritual practice helps you realize that life’s problems and challenges don’t have to turn your life upside down. It gives you the mental and emotional strength to face difficulties and problems.
Despite the bad rap spirituality gets, don’t discount a spiritual practice just because of the zany people you might know, the bizarre practices and stereotypes. Infusing your life in a spiritual practice can help you live a more fulfilled, balanced and happy life.
More research in the field of spirituality is necessary, of course. However, for those comfortable with incorporating prayer into the fabric of their daily lives, the use of prayer may be yet another resource to enhance diabetes self-management and therefore, general wellness.
If you happen to be a spiritual person who lacks motivation, it may be due to not being as strong spiritually as you may think you are.
However, there are many simple ways to tap into the power of your spirituality or your inner spirit.
First of all, we need to stop thumping the Bible and start reading the Bible! The Bible contains thousands of passages that explain how to use your inner spirit or spirituality and be healthy!
When we get sick and end up in the hospital, we praise God for saving our lives, but, we continue to ignore His message! We refuse to change our eating habits and lifestyle and follow the Scriptures.
Some of us lack the drive or motivation to change our eating habits, even though we know intellectually that eating healthy is the right thing to do! Blaming our plight on a lack of motivation is a weak excuse for not facing the truth ...
Here are several examples to help you. Implement at least three of the following concepts to help improve your emotional, social, and spiritual health; and, in turn, improve your physical health.
- Be selfish: Take care of Number One – You!
- Educate yourself. Fear, anxiety and the lack of hope are driven by the lack of knowledge. Once you educate yourself about how to defeat your diabetes, fear and anxiety will subside and hope will rise.
- Forgive others. But, more importantly forgive yourself.
- Show gratitude to others. And, it will be returned 10-fold.
- Love yourself. If you love yourself, you will take the time to prepare meals and find the time to exercise.
- Be positive. Develop and maintain a positive attitude with life as well as an open mind to new ideas about health and nutrition. Don’t hide behind the disease and look for sympathy from friends and relatives.
- Have a positive attitude. Attitude is everything. Attitude is a choice. A person with a positive attitude will have a strong faith and belief in self, others, and in God. A person with a positive attitude will attract positive people and positive events.
- Motivate yourself. Identify a strong motive for getting healthy, e.g. financial, your children, family, quality of life, religious, disdain towards drugs, fear of a painful death. Ensure that your motive is strong enough to overcome the setbacks you’re going to have during your journey.
- Change the way you think. Choose to be healthy. More importantly, avoid your food triggers, e.g. driving past a fast food place, mall shopping, playing cards with friends.
- Become a victor of wellness. Stop being a victim of disease and drugs.
- Have courage. It takes courage to go against your doctors to fight a disease like Type 2 diabetes or any disease for that matter.
- Be thankful, hopeful, cheerful, and prayerful. These attitudes produce the endorphins, which are merry hormones and happy chemicals that fight disease and promote a sense of well being.
- What you think you create. Therefore, change the talk-track in your head to tell you that you're going to beat your diabetes.
- Be aware of societal “isms”. Don't allow these "isms" to affect your health.
- Embrace adversity. Realize that you will face change and adversity during your journey. Adversity will build your character or reveal it.
- Understand Life's 3 Problems (aka The 3 Problems in Life). Once you realize that there are only 3 problems that you need to solve to be successful in life, you'll be able to move forward and solve each problem. (See below for more info).
- Listen to your inner voice, your true self. Get in touch with your true feelings, your calling, your Purpose in Life, your real passion – it’s not what you want to do, it’s what you want to be. It’s what you were meant to be. Use your personality (the essence of who you are) and everything you’ve learned throughout your life to serve your soul and drive your true passion.
- Find your Purpose in Life. If you believe in the Creator, then, you realize that you were put on this planet for a reason -- a specific purpose. Use your God-given skills and life experiences to become a servant to help others in your community .
- Share your knowledge. Become a health advocate in your community.
- Strengthen your belief system. Trust in divine power. Recognize that a divine being, a guardian angel, is always with you. Believe in something that is a higher power – “more powerful than thee.”
- Have faith, but take action. Believe that God will help you, but don’t sit around waiting for God – take action!
- Connect to your inner spirit. In order to change your state of mind and bring back the hope, tap into your inner spirit. You can’t solve your problem (e.g. diabetes) with the same state of mind that created the problem in the first place.
Use meditation, chanting and deep-breathing. Indian/Chinese/Asian methods such as meditation and yoga can help us relieve the stress, tension, anxiety, anger and other negative emotions that we deal with on a daily basis. Yoga Reference: www.discover-yoga-online.com/basic-yoga.html
- Change for the better. Change the way you look at things and things will change the way they look.
- Fear and Faith cannot coexist in the same place. You can neutralize or reduce your fears by making your faith bigger than your fear – by cultivating your faith. And, faith breeds more faith.
- Do not underestimate the power of the human spirit. This has been demonstrated by events such as the Tsunami, Hurricane Katrina, and many of the senseless shootings.
- Learn from others. Join a diabetic support group and learn from others with diabetes. But, don't assume they're experts!
- Help others. Become a community volunteer to help others.
- Laugh! Laugh! Laugh! Laughter is a wonderful stress-reducer. Laughter relieves muscular tension providing a discharge of nervous excitement. It improves breathing, regulates the heartbeat and pumps endorphins (the body’s natural painkillers) into the bloodstream. Smiling is also beneficial.
- Release the negative energy. Let go of the anger, jealousy, hopelessness, and envy in your life. These negative emotions trigger the release of stress hormones and weaken the immune system, making you more susceptible to disease.
- Forgive others. But don’t expect anything in return.
- Be social. Participate in activities and with people that bring joy to your life.
In order to be successful in life, we have to overcome many problems in life with our jobs, our careers, our families, education, finding the time, not having enough money, our health, etc.
We tend to believe that we have too many problems in life to overcome. But, in reality, there are only 3 problems! That's right -- 3 problems. Do you know what they are?
The 3 major problems in life are:
1. Health (Disease)
That's it! And, once you realize this, it will be easier to develop an action plan to achieve success.
In addition, once you solve one of these problems, such as a health problem, it will actually help you solve some of your financial problems and maybe even some of your relationship problems!
Also, when you solve one problem, it gives you the confidence to solve another problem; and another; and another ...
Note: Refer to the DTD Blog for more details about how to solve Life's 3 Problems.
You're special -- we're all special. We all have a gift. We all have a Purpose in Life.
You have skills -- there is something that you're very good at but the world around you beats you down. And, so you forget that you're special and have these skills. Or, we devalue our skills and fail to realize how our skills can reshape our lives and the lives of the people around us.
Unfortunately, most of us never discover our gift. Most of us never figure out what is our purpose in life. Why is that? There are several reasons:
-- Some of us are too humble -- we can't imagine that we're special.
-- Some of us lack self-confidence or self-esteem -- we truly don't believe that there's anything about that would make us special.
-- Some of us ignore the signs. For example: Has anyone ever told you that you should write a book? Has anyone ever told you that you are wasting your time at your current job?
-- Some of us are afraid to take the next step or take action -- it's easier to stay back in the shadows.
-- Some of us actually want to take the next step but, we come up with a million excuses why we can't. The number 1 excuse is that we don't have time.
-- Some of us are afraid of making changes. We find it easier to stay safe.
-- Some of us don't think that we have a Purpose in Life.
If you believe in a Higher Power, then, you have to believe that you were put on this planet for a reason -- for a purpose.
But, if you ignore God's message about His super foods, you will spend the majority of your time and energy fighting disease and other illnesses instead of finding your life passion and fulfilling your Destiny.
Once you find your passion, you will discover your Purpose in Life.
And, once you find your Purpose in Life, nothing will stop you from achieving success in your life and achieving your Destiny.
Author's Perspective: Whenever I meet someone after a workshop or when I get the chance to talk to someone on the phone, more times than not, I hear an inspirational story. When I point this out to the person, he or she is shocked to learn that their story is inspirational, that they have a story that will help other people. That they have a story that other people want to hear about.
The challenge that you face is to figure out what makes you special, and, how to help others. And, once you figure out how to help others, you'll be helping yourself and your family. You will discover your true Purpose in Life.
Note: You may be struggling right now physically or financially, but don't despair, don't give up. Once you overcome your struggle, you will find that you now have the power and the insight to help others.
So, how do you find your true Purpose in Life?
Here's one way: Listen to your inner voice, your true self: -- the Voice of God speaks through your heart, but you have to be still and very quiet to hear the Voice . . . don’t look for God to speak to you like he did with Moses and the Burning Bush . . . he speaks to us everyday, if we just listen quietly.
Get in touch with your true feelings, your calling, your purpose in life, your real passion – it’s not what you want to do, it’s what you want to be. It’s what you were meant to be. Use your personality (the essence of who you are) and everything you’ve learned throughout your life to serve your soul and drive your true passion.
Everybody has a calling, and your real job in life is to figure out what it is you’re called to do.
As depicted in the followingdiagram, there are several factors that will help you determine your Purpose in Life. Where these factors intercept will be your Purpose in Life!
Once you find your Purpose in Life, you will never get tired because you’re fueled by the passion and the energy of trying to fulfill your Purpose in Life.
Another Way to Find Your Purpose in Life
Actually, you can figure out or come close to figuring out your Purpose in Life in 20 minutes or less. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
-- What would you do if you didn't have to worry about paying bills?
-- What would you do if you knew that you only had 1 year to live?
-- What is it that you do better than anyone else?
-- What is it that you were doing the last time you received a lot of praise?
-- What excites you? What floats your boat? What are you passionate about?
-- What one thing would you change about yourself right now?
-- What one thing would you change in the world?
-- What are the 7 key events of your life? How did you get to where you are?
-- What did you want to be when you were growing up?
-- What are you really good at? what is your Number 1 skill?
-- What do you really want out of life? What is stopping you?
-- How can you use your Number 1 skill to get what you really want?
-- Ask a friend or relative what they truly like about you; and, also what they dislike about you.
Note: Refer to the Death to Diabetes (DTD Blog) for more details about how to find your Purpose in Life (from the author's perspective).
FYI: Here are some of the websites we found that provide easy exercises to discover your Purpose in Life:
FYI: Here are some inspirational quotes that the author used when he was a math tutor for the Urban League and also during some of his diabetes workshops.
Motivation, Will Power and Discipline
Motivation has become a popular word nowadays. There are motivational coaches and speakers, and motivational books and articles. What is it actually, and why do you need it?
Motivation is a driving force. In order to accomplish anything, you need a driving force, otherwise nothing will happen. A wish is not strong enough to make you take action. A wish is a weak desire. Only a strong desire can drive forward, to act and accomplish aims and goals.
In order to get motivated, you need to know exactly what it is that you want, to possess a strong desire, and to be willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish your goal.
One of the best ways to motivate yourself is to align your mind with your dreams. Imagining what you want is easy. Conceptualizing how to get it – a matter of mapping out steps. Actually following through to usher into reality the fantasy of your mind, this is where problems occur.
Sometimes the distance between wanting and receiving is the pit of procrastination. Research suggests that procrastination chronically affects 20 percent of the population, although 95 percent of us do it.
But procrastination isn’t the only reason we fail to achieve our dreams. Often the real problem is that our feelings are out of step with our objectives. Intellectually we know we need to do something to create the outcome we desire (e.g. get healthy), but we don’t feel like putting in the time or energy to do it. Sometimes, we blame it on a lack of motivation, but, that's just an excuse for being lazy or in denial or being a comfort zone that we don't want to leave.
In the tug of war between mind and emotion, emotion always wins. So, successfully manifesting what you want, means aligning mind and emotion.
More often than not, there is lack of motivation or only a short-lived drive to achieve a goal. How many times have you started enthusiastically a weight loss program, began a bodybuilding or aerobics training program or started to learn a foreign language, only to stop after a short while? Few people possess enough willpower and self-discipline to go through to the end with what they begin.
It’s easier to show motivation in connection with a subject that is dear to you. If you desire something, but you don't feel motivated enough to act, this means that the desire is not important enough. To be motivated to take action and do something in respect to your desire, you need to possess a really strong desire.
Note: Another thing to keep in mind is that if you're not motivated to want to beat this disease, you'e not alone. You see, your emotions (especially your dark emotions) affect your diabetes; and, your diabetes affects your emotions!
And, to further complicate matters, food affects your emotions; and, your emotions (especially when you're under a lot of stress) affect your food choices! It's a complex, vicious cycle, but, our program can help you break the cycle ...
How to Increase Your Motivation
Motivation has much to do with the emotions and the imagination, which means that if you want to increase it, you have to work on your feelings and imagination.
Many times, a lack of motivation is due to us not prioritizing what's really important in our lives. Here's a story (about a burning house) that we usually share in our workshops that demonstrates this.
The Burning House Metaphor
If you were in a house that was on fire, would you stay in the house? Of course, you wouldn't!
If you were too busy, would you stay in the house because you have so many things to do? Of course, you wouldn't!
If you didn't know how to get out of the house, would you stay in the house or listen to a fireman who has helped others to get out of the burning house? You would listen to the fireman -- right?
Well, Type 2 diabetes is your burning house ...
Tips to increase your motivation:
- Think, meditate and find out whether you really want to achieve your desire, and whether it is worth the effort and time.
- Make your goal very clear. Writing it down will help.
- Think often about your goal or desire.
- Visualize your goal as already accomplished, and close your mind to contrary thoughts.
- Read books or articles about the subject of your goal.
- Read about people who have achieved success.
- Think often about the benefits you will gain by achieving your goal.
- Visualize, and think about how you would feel after achieving your goal.
- Repeat positive affirmations such as: "I have the desire and inner strength to achieve my goal". Repeat this affirmation often, with faith and strong feelings.
- Start with doing something small concerning your goal. Success in small matters leads to greater success.
- Tap into your inner spirit, your spirituality.
Motivation is the powerful engine that moves you towards success and accomplishments in every area.
Everyone is motivated and excited about losing weight in January. The promise of a new year ignites motivation and will power, but it can quickly wane after the challenges of life wear us down. The time to intensify motivation is NOW. You must intensify your will power by tapping into your personal motivators.
Although you may think that your family is your top motivator, actually it’s YOU! Because if you’re not healthy, then, your family will not be healthy. This is the time to be selfish – remember to take care of Number 1 – You!
Develop and maintain a positive attitude with life as well as an open mind to new ideas about health and nutrition. Focus on what you need to do to be healthy, not the reasons why you cannot be healthy. What you focus on will be what defines you and your journey – so focus on the positive, not the negative.
Establish relationships with positive people full of hope, and healthy people who have either beat their diabetes or are controlling it with nutrition and exercise.
Look for what you love about your family members and friends instead of what’s wrong with them. Acknowledge these positive perspectives to each of them individually and together. Keep in mind that discord with family members and friends can create stress.
Also, starting out on this new journey may threaten some relationships that are founded on co-dependency. Some of their resistance to your changes may be due to their concern that they may lose your friendship. Assure them that that is not the case. But also assure them that you will not allow them to deter you from your new journey.
Try to find a partner or friend who will work with you and support you on your journey.
Will power is the ability to overcome laziness and procrastination. It is the ability to control or reject unnecessary or harmful impulses. It is the ability to arrive to a decision and follow it with perseverance until its successful accomplishment. It is the inner power that overcomes the desire to indulge in unnecessary and useless habits, and the inner strength that overcomes inner emotional and mental resistance for taking action – to lose weight. It is one of the corner stones of success, both spiritual and material.
Discipline is the companion of will power. It endows with the stamina to persevere in whatever one does. It bestows the ability to withstand hardships and difficulties, whether physical, emotional or mental. It grants the ability to reject immediate satisfaction, in order to gain something better, but which requires empowerment, empowerment, effort, execution and evolution – The 4 Es of getting things done.
You must feel empowered to go on a journey that will improve your health. Everyone associates effort with doing physical things, but there is a mental side to effort as well. Execution is the “implementation of effort” – it is necessary to make the actual changes to lose the weight. And, evolution is the change or evolvement of you as a person – because you will be a different person after this journey to wellness.
Everyone has inner, unconscious, or partly conscious impulses, making them say or do things they later regret saying or doing. On many occasions people do not think before they talk or act. By developing these two powers, one becomes conscious of the inner, subconscious impulses, and gains the ability to reject them when they are not for his/her own good.
Will power and discipline help us to choose our behavior and reactions, instead of being ruled by them. Their possession won't make life dull or boring. On the contrary, you will feel more powerful, in charge of yourself and your surroundings, happy and satisfied.
How many times have you felt too weak, lazy or shy to do something you wanted to do? You can gain inner strength, initiative and the ability to make decisions and follow them. It is not difficult to develop these two powers. If you are earnest and are willing to become stronger, you will certainly succeed.
There is a misconception in the public mind regarding will power. It is erroneously thought to be something strenuous and difficult, and that one has to exert and tense the body and mind when expressing it. It is a completely wrong concept. This is one of the reasons why people avoid using it, though they are conscious of its benefits. They acknowledge the fact that the employment of will power in their life and affairs will greatly help them, and that they need to strengthen it, yet they do nothing about it.
Will power gets stronger by holding back and not allowing the expression of unimportant, unnecessary and unhealthy thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions. If this saved energy is not allowed expression, it is stored inside you like a battery, and it becomes available at the time of need. By practicing appropriate exercises, you develop your powers the same way, as a person who trains his/her muscles in order to strengthen them.
Developing Will Power and Discipline
An effective method for developing and improving these abilities is to perform certain actions or activities, which you would rather avoid doing due to laziness, procrastination, weakness, shyness, etc. By doing something that you do not like doing or are too lazy to do, you overcome your subconscious resistance, train your mind to obey you, strengthen your inner powers and gain inner strength. Muscles get stronger by resisting the power of the barbells. Inner strength is attained by overcoming inner resistance.
Remember, strengthening one of these abilities, automatically strengthens the other one. Here are a few exercises:
1) You are sitting in a bus or train and an old man or woman, or a pregnant lady walks in. Stand up and give up your seat even if you prefer to stay seated. Do this not just because it is polite, but because you are doing something that you are reluctant to do. In this way you are overcoming the resistance of your body, mind and feelings.
2) There are dishes in the sink that need washing, and you postpone washing them for later. Get up and wash them now. Do not let your laziness overcome you. When you know that in this way you are developing your will power, and if you are convinced of the importance of will power in your life, it will be easier for you to do whatever you have to do.
3) You come home tired from work and sit in front of the TV because you feel too lazy and tired to go and wash. Do not obey the desire to just sit, but go and have a shower
4) You may know your body needs some physical exercise, but instead you keep on sitting doing nothing or watching a movie. Get up and walk, run or do some other physical exercise.
5) Do you like your coffee with sugar? Then for a whole week decide to drink it without sugar. You like to drink three cups of coffee each day? For a week drink only two.
Do you hate Brussels sprouts or broccoli? Then, for a whole week, eat Brussels sprouts for breakfast and dinner. Then, for the next week, eat broccoli for breakfast.
6) Sometimes, when you want to say something that is not important, decide not to say it.
7) Don't read some unimportant gossip in the newspaper or magazine, even if you want to.
8) You have a desire to eat something not too healthy. For the sake of the exercise refuse the desire.
9) If you find yourself thinking unimportant, unnecessary, negative thoughts, try to develop lack of interest in them, by thinking about their futility.
10) Overcome your laziness. Convince yourself of the importance of what is to be done. Convince your mind that you gain inner strength when you act and do things, in spite of laziness, reluctance or senseless inner resistance.
Never say that you cannot follow the above exercises, because you certainly can. Be persistent no matter what. Motivate yourself by thinking about of the importance of performing the exercises, and the inner power and strength you will gain.
Please Note: Trying to attempt too many exercises when you are still a beginner, might end in disappointment. It is better to start training yourself through easier exercises at first, and gradually increase the number and difficulty of the exercises. Practice will improve and increase your power, giving you a lot of satisfaction.
Most of these exercises can be practiced anywhere, anytime. You do not have to devote special times for them. Believe me, they are very effective. Practicing them enables you to be strong and exercise will power and self-discipline in everything you do. This power would become available whenever needed.
If you practice weight lifting, running or doing aerobics, you strengthen your body. When you need to move something heavy, you have the strength for it. By studying French each day, you will be able to talk French when you travel to France. The same thing happens with will power and self-discipline. By strengthening them, they become available whenever they are needed.
It is important to remember not to choose exercises that might affect adversely your body or health. Deny and give up what is not necessary, futile or is harmful, but not what is vital for your well being. Always use your reason and common sense, so that you do no damage to yourself.
If for the sake of an exercise, you stop doing something that you usually do, and overcome the inner resistance concerning it, you may resume doing it, if it is not harmful.
For example, if you love drinking orange juice, and for the sake of an exercise you switch to drinking apple juice, after doing so for some time and after it makes no great difference to you, you may go back to drinking orange juice, if you still like it. The point here is to develop inner strength, not making life difficult for you or continue doing things you don't like to do.
Advantages of Possessing Strong Will Power and Self Discipline
You need both of them in order to rule your thoughts and to be the boss of your mind. The stronger they are, the more control you have over your thoughts, and consequently your powers of concentration get stronger.
When you are the master of your mind you enjoy inner peace and happiness. Outer events do not sway you, and circumstances have no power over your peace of mind. This might sound too unreal for you, but experience will prove to you that all the above is true.
These abilities are essential for self growth, spiritual growth and meditation. They give you control over your daily life, help you improve your habits and behavior, and they are the keys to every success.
Practice the exercises presented here earnestly and with persistence, and you will go really far.
Once you’re motivated and understand will power, you must have the discipline to continue with your weight loss goals.
What is discipline? Discipline is the training of your mind to control, perceived harmful, urges, and to continue to control these urges until a satisfactory resolution has been sought.
Discipline occurs in every part of your life right now, you might not have recognized it but it does. When you get out of bed in the morning to go to work, that is self discipline; when you brush your teeth every morning, that is self discipline; when you have a shower or a bath every morning, that is self discipline. Although you might not have recognized it as such we use this skill every day in our lives.
Imagine if you harnessed this power to change different aspects of your life. There are many areas of your life it could benefit; in fact it could benefit every area of your life. If you want to give up smoking, no matter what programs are available to do so, it ultimately comes down to self discipline. If you want to lose weight, yes it’s great that there are groups of people who are doing the same as they can be a good motivator but again it comes down to self discipline.
Who’s in control of your mind?
With television, computers, e-mail, radio, mobile phones, video, iPods, newspapers, magazines, etc., there has never been an easier way to reach our minds through advertising.
A lot of us don’t realize that we are all being manipulated in some way to do things that may be harmful to us. I am not talking conspiracy or anything like that, it’s been a natural progression.
Advertisers have become a lot smarter and appealed to our psyche rather than our rational minds, there are some great adverts out there which slip into our minds and build up and eventually get us to act to buy something or do something.
For example our children are bombarded with advertisements for fast foods (MacDonald’s anyone?) or a new toy (because they have to have the latest thing). Why is so much spent on advertising for children when it’s the adults who are buying? Because it’s the children who ultimately apply the pressure for us to go to MacDonald’s or to buy the latest toy.
Another so-called conspiracy that may control your mind has to do with the medical industry and pharmaceutical companies. The medical industry and your doctors can't make any money if they cured your diabetes or other disease. So, they advertise their drugs on TV and convince us that their drugs (pills) are the solution to your diabetes or any other disease.
Once you buy into taking their drugs, you have to keep buying their drugs to treat your diabetes or any other disease. Consequently, the medical industry and pharmaceutical companies make billions of dollars selling us their toxic drugs while your health continues to deteriorate. This may seem like a conspiracy, but, actually, it's just good business on their part. Many years ago, the American Medical Association (AMA) developed a business model, which turned medicine into a multi-billion dollar business.
Ironically, it takes motivation, will power and disciple to overcome the convenience and ease of taking pills versus changing your diet and lifestyle. the medical industry and pharmaceutical companies are betting that you will take the drugs because it's easier. Also, most people won't admit this, but, they are lazy when it comes to changing their diet and creating a meal plan. As a result, we have become a pill-popping society of prescription and OTC drug users.
The practice of self discipline
While it’s hard to control your thoughts and actions as a child it should be easier for an adult, you would think! However this is not necessarily the case. If you’ve not been taught self discipline as a child how are you expected to self discipline yourself as an adult?
The truth is self discipline comes automatically for some us as our responsibilities become greater. For example when we get a job, we have to get up at a set time, we have to work a set number of hours, we have to conform to the companies rules and procedures, that’s all self discipline. Usually the things we learn to practice self discipline in are the things we are rewarded with e.g. our job, going to the gym, saving money, making love.
Depending on the person some of these rewards will be bigger and have more meaning than some of the others.
What good would self discipline have in your life?
What if you could practice self discipline in everything you do? How would your life change? Would it change? Think of these questions for a moment. Some of the areas in your life you could change might be:
- The amount of time spent with the kids
- Your health
- Your weight
- Your fitness
- The tidiness of your house or office
- Fixing all the broken things in your house (fix that shelf once and for all)
- The amount of time spent watching TV
- Watching what you eat
- Fasting for one day per week
- Having a cold shower every morning
- Get your finances sorted out
- Write those letters you’ve been meaning to write
- Make the phone calls you’ve been meaning to make
- Organize your life
- Getting up early to be thankful of all the things you have
The list could go on and on ... the key is to identity the things that you want to do.
There are thousands of articles written pitting God versus Science. But, if you really think about it, God created science!
If you want to learn how to fight a disease like Type 2 diabetes, just read the Bible! There are hundreds of passages that tell us how to eat properly to stay healthy.
Another way to learn how to fight a disease like Type 2 diabetes is to to learn about the science of disease (and human physiology) at the cellular level.
God gave you a brain to help you think and solve problems. Science helps you learn how to analyze and solve complex problems and recognize when people (especially doctors) are not telling you the truth.
God explains in the Bible what foods we should eat. Science tells us what nutrients, vitamins and minerals are in the food so that we know which foods we should eat.
Prayer and meditation helps us to relax and think more clearly. Science (and mathematics) helps to train and organize your brain so that you can think more logically and creatively in problem-solving and multi-tasking.
Science is not merely a collection of facts, concepts, and useful ideas about nature. Science is a method of investigating nature (God) -- a way of knowing about nature and God -- that discovers reliable knowledge about it. In other words, science is a way of discovering more about God, His nature, and His wisdom.
Author's Perspective: When I first recovered from my diabetic coma, some churches called it a miracle. When I started doing some research, I discovered that science also played a role in my recovery.
During my talks, I gave credit to God (and my mother and daughter) for my miraculous recovery from the coma, 2 blood clots, 4 insulin shots a day, failing eyesight and damaged legs.
But, I also pointed out that my background in engineering, science and biochemistry helped me as well.
So, from my perspective, it wasn't just God or just science that saved me -- it was both.
In fact, I don't see how you can separate the two. God created these super foods that contain the key nutrients we need to fight disease.
And, God gave us brains so that we can think for ourselves and figure out how to use His foods instead of Man's drugs to fight a disease like diabetes.
So, when it comes to nutrition, there is a powerful connection between God and science. The Bible tells us about God's super foods that can heal us from disease. Science tells us about vegetables and other foods that contain specific nutrients that can heal us.
So, instead of pitting God against science and vice-versa, we should embrace both in order to successfully fight these diseases.
But, churches and their leaders do not talk about God's super foods. They tell us to pray and donate to the church. When was the last time you heard a sermon about God's food?
And, science experts don't tell us about these foods either - - they tell us to go to the doctor and take their medications.
Do you see the disconnect here? The leaders in the church and in science both promote messages to further their own agendas with a total disregard to what's best for their congregation or the public!
Luckily for us, God gave us brains so that we can figure out what's best for us when it comes to nutrition and fighting a disease ...
And, fortunately, there are many passages in the Bible that tell us about the power of God's foods and how we should use these foods to nourish and repair our bodies.
Here are a just a few examples:
Genesis 1:29 And God said, Behold I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.
Ezekiel 4:9 Take wheat and barley, beans and lentils, millet and spelt; put them in a storage jar and use them to make bread for yourself.
Daniel 1:8 But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king's meat, nor with the wine which he drank...
Daniel 1:12 Prove thy servants, I beseech thee, ten days; and let them give us pulse (lima beans) to eat, and water to drink.
Daniel 1:15 And at the end of the ten days their countenances appeared fairer and fatter in flesh than all the children which did eat the portion of the king's meat.
For more examples, refer to our web page God, Food, and Healing.
Many of us attend or have attended a church. One of the missions of the church is to provide spiritual guidance to its church members.
Consequently, in order for a church to be successful, it must provide spiritual guidance in serving its congregation and its community.
The role of the congregation is to help the church with its mission.
But, many churches have become another example of an institution that has also lost its way and its real mission in life.
Ironically, it was the churches that encouraged Mr. McCulley to speak out about his recovery from near-death. It was the churches who invited Mr. McCulley to speak at Mother's Day, Easter, Christmas, and other church events.
If you look back at history, it was the churches who protected the slaves. It was the churches who educated many of the slaves.
Churches have played a major role in improving our society, but, today, many churches and its members are struggling -- physically, emotionally, and financially.
Here is how Mr. McCulley's powerful message can be applied to your church and its members:
Healthy church members are happy church members. Happy church members are more giving to their church. The church has more resources and is more giving to their church members and their community. This leads to more people coming to church. And, the church is able to grow and help even more people.
By the way, many church members are sick and ill with diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure, obesity, heart disease, kidney failure, etc. Sick people can't help a church to grow as much as healthy people can.
But, churches don't focus on God's nutrition and how to make people healthy!! In fact, many church people including the pastors and other church leaders rely on man's harmful drugs and man-made chemicals instead of God's super foods!!
Another point: Many church members are not only physically sick, but they are financially sick and struggling to make ends meet. And, financially sick people can't really help a church grow either.
One final point: There is a spiritual connection between physical health and financial health. Mr. McCulley calls it the Health-Wealth Connection. Imagine, if everyone understood this principle -- many of us would no longer struggle with our health and our wealth (finances)!
These are very simple but powerful principles. Please share these principles with your pastor, church members, family, friends, and community.
If you are a pastor, priest, church leader, or church member, please contact us -- we can help.
The above ideas may seem too simple, but, they are very powerful. Just try a couple and you'll see! For more information about emotional support, mental health, social health, motivation and spirituality, visit our Emotional Support web page or read Chapter 13 of the Death to Diabetes book, or get one or more of the following ebooks:
- Stress Reduction -- How to Reduce It with Food & Spirit
- Motivation, Will Power & Discipline: Secrets to Health
- Depression -- How to Defeat It Without the Drugs
Interesting Quote about Helping Others:
"Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth." Muhammad Ali
As long as you continue to ignore your inner spirit and accept being diabetic and accept taking the drugs, then, the diabetes will eventually begin to affect you physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, and in other ways.
For example, the cost for the drugs you're taking will increase over time and require more money on your part. And, once the drugs lose their effectiveness, you'll have to take even more drugs and higher dosages.
Eventually, whether you like it or not, your doctor will put you on insulin after he/she has exhausted most of the oral pill options.
In addition, because the medications aren't doing anything to stop the progression of your diabetes, you'll eventually have to spend money for hospital stays, surgery, post-op care, etc.
Also, there will be additional costs for diabetic complications such as retinopathy (laser surgery, blindness), nephropathy (kidney dialysis), neuropathy (amputation), heart attack (bypass surgery), stroke (rehab, post-op care), etc.
So, if you'r ready to stop the madness and start your journey to better health and reverse your diabetes, then, get the ex-diabetic's book, Death to Diabetes.
If you have a juicer/blender or plan to get one, then, get the ex-diabetic's Power of Juicing ebook to help you reverse your diabetes.
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